I wear a wonderful apron that’s almost a smock with generously huge pockets and a loop that holds towels wonderfully. I love my apron and I love everything that I get to do in it. I am grateful to get to wear this apron because I am one of the few that actually gets to work at my dream job day in and day out. I am a housewife (aka stay at home mom, until my son goes off to college). Yes, this is my dream job and it took me a long time to realize that what I wanted to be when I grew up had already happened and I continued to fight it day in and day out.
Why?! Because being a housewife is considered to be “frivolous” or “not a real job” or “settling” in our current society. The term housewife is lost in ridiculous reality shows that portrays being a housewife as someone who shops, visits the cosmetologist and lunches with her girl friends surrounded by various alcoholic libations just ticking time away until their children are to be picked up from school. Based on what society was defining a house wife to be, there was no way that I could actually want this. I mean come on, I am smart,well educated, hard working, inventive, creative and a contributing member to society; so it had to be something else. It had to be.
Until one evening when I had finished a call with my, then, boss. We had just finished a conversation about how my hours were going to be dwindled down to just a handful a week due to a large client changing their direction with our company, that would rarely involve me. I hung up the phone and realized that I was actually, excited. I couldn’t believe it, excited?! I thought I had found my dream job, I had made it, I was using my expensive college degree, I was making money (real money!), how in the hell was I excited?! Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was not living my dream, I was living the dream that everyone else told me I should want. So, what do I actually want? What had gotten me so excited?
The minute I asked myself this question I had answered it without so much as taking a breath, I wanted to be a housewife. I thrived at running our household and being there for my family at the moment that they might need me, I was good at it and I enjoyed the hell out of it. I enjoyed being a housewife and secretly loathed leaving the house every day to go work for someone else and to help them accomplish their goals, not mine. Could a housewife be my actual job? Could I have been working this entire time toward someone else’s goal? Because of who I am, I had to talk to my best friend (my husband) to help me figure this out and answer these questions.
Without taking a moment to think, my husband answered me with “Yes, of course a housewife can be an actual job. Better yet, it IS an actual job.” My husband went on to really help me put this into perspective. A housewife runs an entire house and those that are not only within it but those that are apart of the family outside of it. As he continued on, I realized he was actually making a lot of sense and telling me everything that I already knew but that I had buried deep down because society kept telling me “that’s how its was suppose to be”. Enough!
I embrace my apron life, my picking up everything around the house, making breakfast, lunch and dinner and cleaning like a mad woman every day to ensure the house shines. I don’t do it for my family (though that is the ultimate bonus) I do it because it what I want to do. Me. It makes me genuinely happy and leaves me feeling fulfilled every day. How many of us can truly say that about what we do?
So, embrace what YOU really want to do. Drown all the voices out around you and follow that dream that continually pops up in your mind when you are doing all of the other things that you “have to do”.
Keeping summer simple is the easiest way to entertain anyone that might come over to your house. Stringing up a strand or two of lights throughout your backyard will transform your outdoor entertaining space into an intimate warm setting with just the flick of a switch. Anything else added to the space (pots of flowers, grilled food, bottles of wine) will only enhance the experience.
One of the few things I take such pride in is decorating our home for the various holidays throughout the year. When I was growing up this was something my Mom always did right. She always made the smallest of holidays feel wonderful, exciting and most of all made us feel like we were very special. However, the very last thing that I want to do is spend allot of money on decorations that will only be up for a few weeks so, I am always working to make the most out of the simplest products. For this Valentines Day, I went to our local party store and picked up a package of heart cut outs that cost $5.99 for 32! I had some red butchers string in our home, tape and a gold sharpie pen so, the cost was minimal. However, if you don’t have these on hand, they will only cost you about $10 or less for this project ($2 for tape, $3 for marker and $2-5 for butchers string).
- 12-20 Heart cut outs (quantity depends on design wanted various sizes are nice but not necessary)
- 1 gold sharpie pen
- 1 roll of scotch tape
- 1 package or roll of any string
This is just a quick thought for the day………Sometimes the smallest notes or word of love can have the biggest impact on your marriage. Don’t let these little things get away from you, they’ll add up to be the big things in the end. One of my favorite days that my husband and I have had of late was when he told me “I planned a Valentines weekend for us” and “let’s go to lunch together”. These two little things, made my entire day. I was elated by the mere gesture that my husband had made of creating a special weekend for us, I mean, how GREAT is that?! Then, when it seemed things couldn’t get better, we go out to lunch and get to just talk to one another. No phones, no kids, no computers, just us. Think simply and small and an ordinary Thursday can turn into an extraordinary day in your marriage.